 Lou Kelly has a lot to say when it concerns relationships and love. "I found myself in a very peculiar situation,” says Lou. “One night my wife, my best friend came to me while we were in bed as she often did, hugged me, told me that she loved me and how much she loved me, thanked me for everything we had and for being a good man. Then we went to sleep. Within a few days, she was gone . . . emotionally. I thought it was a typical monthly mood swing, I was used to that. But it never went away.” At that point, Lou went on a mission to find out why things changed in his life and in that quest, he found out that he wasn’t alone. “I’ve been through counseling. I’ve attended support groups. I’ve read thousands of pages of relationship books. What I’ve discovered is that I’m not one in a million, but rather just one in millions. I feel driven to tell the world what I’ve learned.”
Lou has been called a remarkably well balanced man. Blue collar and tough but uniquely in touch with his feminine side. A graduate of The Connecticut School of Broadcasting in 1978, Lou has been on many radio stations in Connecticut and Massachusetts. “I’ve always been a helper. I love to help people. I’m using the venue of radio to do it in a new and different way. There are a lot of men out there that are just like me and there are a lot of women out there that are just like my ex-wife. I reach out to all of them to give them a forum where they can communicate their emotions. A place where they can share a point of view. A place that we can all learn from the experiences of each other. I am creating a community of listeners and callers to help one another. I am not a therapist nor do I claim to be. Those shows already exist and are very good in their own way. This show is new and different. I created Midnight In Nowhere to be the world’s largest support group. My job is to keep it informative and entertaining. To be the ringmaster in the circus between guests, callers, music, etc. I use my acquired radio skills to keep it flowing and sounding good.”
A survivor of high anxiety and severe clinical depression, Lou Kelly is a living example that life truly does get better. “There are four keys to getting through it.” Lou goes on to say, “They are; education, understanding, acceptance and forgiveness. With education, a person can understand why things changed the way that did. And with that understanding, when that person is ready, he or she can then accept what has happened. Acceptance begets forgiveness. It is then and only then that we can move on to make life good again.” Lou references his own life experience to set an example. “I don’t believe that divorce has to be ugly. There is so much anger and vitriol out there between ex-spouses. It doesn’t have to be that way. The courts and the lawyers should be the furthest things from family. I believe that when two people come to that point where they decide that they can no longer be a couple, so much so that they are willing to compromise the family unit, then it’s time to work together to equitably take apart what they spent years putting together. To look at the good and be thankful for it. My ex-wife gave me two wonderful children and twenty three wonderful years in the prime of my life. What have I got to complain about?” |
